Can you really work with someone who you think is negative and toxic?
In reality it's not easy. But if one thinks not of the "shoulds" and "what could have beens", and instead only concentrates on "what is" in the here and now, then dealing with a difficult situation becomes much more easier. In fact, Dr. Srikumar Rao, who teaches the much acclaimed "Creativity and Personal Mastery" course at Columbia and London Business School tells his students:
I ask them to think negatively about their boss and note the anger, frustration, feelings of helplessness and bitterness that emerge. Is this the room they want to live in? I then ask them to be grateful for having that person in their life. He's a challenge that trains them to deal with difficult persons and move to higher management positions. When the focus is on learning and dealing with the situation, much of the toxicity simply drains away.
David Chase of NBRI mailed me to tell me to take a look at his blog post "10 employee behaviors bosses hate most". It's pretty good advice for anyone to reflect about their behavior at work. Are you exhibiting any of these behaviors? Get rid of them now !
Coping / Proacting,with situations and people( bosses/subordinates) need envisioning of goals. Identifying long term and short term intent of a person/ superior towards a job/ career, maybe a starting point of goal setting and the net result is the attitude towards achieving targets.
ReplyDeleteRoma Ahuja
Executive Search Consultant
Resources-India
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The easiest way to deal with a Bad boss is to make him a good mentor. I follow a simple rule in our company, 2 meetings as mentor before 1 meeting as boss and it solves almost all problems except the attrition rate.
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